Dispelling the fat acceptance and body shaming movements

The idea of not body shaming seems nice. Treat people, no matter their weight, in a polite and courteous manner. Every stranger should have equal treatment from other people. It's an extension of the golden rule; don't be a dickhead to others.

The problem is that the 'don't body shame' movement has morphed into an entirely different beast – if it ever even was the beast I thought it was when I first heard about it and thought it was a noble idea. Now it's not just enough to ask people to be polite to someone and not bully them for their weight.

Now it's an offense to ask for weight loss help.

That's right. Wanting to change for our own reasons are no longer acceptable.

For a movement that claims to be about independent choice and focuses on being comfortable in your own body, there's a whole lot of shaming going on if someone makes an independent choice to not be fat anymore or says they are not comfortable being fat.

It absolute smacks of people who are angry and bitter that they can't/won't lose weight, so they try to drag everyone else down to their level and then make them 'comfortable' in their obese-martyrdom so they won't ever leave. Misery loves company.

Don't be misery's company.

It's an offense to not find morbidly obese people attractive.

Attraction is biological. By and large, we are attracted to other humans based on symmetry and 'health' – a thinner, without being too thin, body is visually more healthy than an obese one even if it turns out they're just skinny-fat. On women, wide hips and breasts are also generally more attractive at a biological level because it indicates she's old enough and healthy enough to have children. We don't usually think 'mmm, she has baby makin' hips' when we look at a woman with a big booty, but our lizard brain subconscious does.

And for men? We don't usually think 'oh, he's got a nice hip to shoulder ratio; bet he could maul any attackers real good' but that same subconscious instinct does.

When our lizard brain subconscious looks at an obese person it does not see the health it wants to see. Not finding obese people attractive is biological and trying to force people to find someone who is obese attractive is just the most bizarre thing I think I have ever seen SJWs trying to do.

But what about the past when people were attracted to fat women?! Sorry, but that's been distorted over time. What was 'fat' then is not the same as the morbid obesity we call 'fat' now. A plump woman, perhaps a bit overweight, was desired in medieval periods and in other periods throughout history. This is very obvious when looking at artwork of the time, and pornography of the time when we get to photography. Beautiful women were drawn with a bit of extra weight; generally enough we'd call them plump or maybe chubby. But you definitely wouldn't define most of them as fat and definitely not obese.

And it's an offense to bring up health risks related to obesity; in fact, you must pretend obese people are healthy too.

Reality doesn't change just because you don't like it. You can request people not talk to you about the health risks, but it's absurd to try and force people to pretend you're perfectly healthy when you're morbidly obese. You are not. You physically cannot be. Your body does not violate the laws of thermodynamics and weight carriage.

If you don't want to lose weight, that's fine, it's your choice. But don't try to force society to lie to you so you'll feel better about that choice by telling you you're sexy if they don't find you sexy or that you're healthy. Make your bed and lie in it, lumpy bothersome bits in the mattress and all, or roll out of bed and make a new one, or ask for help making a new one, with less lumps.


This isn't healthy. This is not healthy for 'acceptance' since it's often the opposite of acceptance mixing skinny shaming with weight loss shaming. Fat acceptance is a big fat lie.